Sunday, April 26, 2009

Love Dare Day 9

Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.



You have covered some serious ground so far in this journey, learning to demonstrate aspects of love like patience, kindness, and encouragement are not always easy, but are crucial to a healthy relationship. So dealing with the way you greet your spouse may seem inconsequential, but this small issue carries surprising significance.
You can tell a lot about the state of a couple's relationship by the way they greet one another. You can see it in their expression and countenance as well as how they speak to each other. It is even more obvious by their physical contact.
How do you greet your friends, coworkers, and neighbors? How about acquaintances and those you meet in public? You may even encounter someone you do not necessarily like, yet still acknowledge them out of courtesy. So if you are this nice and polite to other people, doesn't your spouse deserve the same? Times ten?
It is probably not something you think about often, the first thing you say to him when you wake up in the morning, the look on your face when you get in the car, the energy in your voice when you speak on the telephone. But here is something to consider-the difference it would make in your spouse's day if everything about you expressed the fact that you were really, really glad to see them.
When someone communicated that they are glad to see you, your personal self-worth increases. You feel more important and valued. That's because a good greeting sets the stage for positive and healthy interaction. Like love, it puts wind in your sails.
What kind of greeting would make your mate feel loved and treasured? How could you excite his various senses with a simple word, touch, or tone of voice? A loving greeting can bless your spouse through what they see, hear, and feel.
Think of the opportunities you have to greet each other on a regular basis. When coming through the door, when meeting for lunch, when saying good-night. It doesn't have to be bold and dramatic every time, but adding warmth and enthusiasm gives you the chance to touch your mate's heart in subtle, unspoken ways.
Remember love is a choice. So choose to change your greeting. Choose to love!

Love Dare Day 8 ~ The Truth

Rick has been really stressed out taking on some almost all of my duties. Dealing with Army demands, TDY's to Ft Campbell, Pressure to succeed (on himself), Retirement, School, The house in Texas and buying a house here. This prayer couldn't come soon enough.


Mustang Marriage Week 2


"Understanding the Owner's Manual"



1 Corinthians 13: 1-5

1 Instrument Panel (Check the Patience Guage")
2. Safety seat belt usage (kind spouses have secure children)
Nothing gives our kids a greater sense of security than knowing mom and dad love each other.
3. Develop a good relationship with the mechanic.
"Christ is in you, the hope of glory." Colossians 1:27
"The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, paitence, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control." - Galations 5:22

Jesus called the HOly Spirit "the Counselor" (paraclotas) John 14:26

The Closer you are to Jesus, the closer you'll be to your spouse.

4. What to do when your car overheats (Turn off the air and the selfishness).

5. How to change a flat (blow outs and blow ups)

v. 5 "Keeps no record" (logizomai) = an accounting word used to describe a book keeper who enters an item on a ledger.


Love
1If I speak in the tongues[
a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.


So Mark our Preacher spoke to us just what my favorite verse means. He said I say this at lots & lots of Weddings, but I never talk about how it applys to current day marriage in Sermons till today. This was the bible verse that was supposed to be read at our Wedding but as many people know the Preacher that did our ceremony forgot the first half of the ceremony. Rick and I in our nervousness or whatever totally missed that he forgot... Only James figured it out (the one who DOESN'T and HASN'T Gone to regular church services... haha. So I always say its our vow we say to each other. How little did I know that I didn't follow the vows as much as I thought.


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. What its saying love is Paitent in order to have unconditional true love it is paitent (using Patient as a verb).


Defintion of Patient Its used as an Adjective in the english language but Greek's used it as a Verb. The verse in the Bible meaning its a description of what love is... Love is Patient... In order to have love you must be patient. In order to have love you must be kind. Then it goes into the negatives that you must not possess in order to have love. You cannot envy, boast, be proud, rude, selfish or easily angered (aka being Patient you cannot be easily angered) in order to enjoy love. Mark says you fall out of trees not out of love. You cannot wait for the feelings to show themselves to you. You have to make the commitment be faithful and try for the commitment and the commandments of love will be there.


So there are a few points I need to pray about and work on. Outside of Love Dare...I don't know about you but I want the maxium mileage out of my Mustang and I want to hear Varooom not Squeak...



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Generous Wife & Husband Tip


Sunday April 26, 2009


Pray for your husband's level of busyness. There are always so many things to do. Pray that he would be able to look at his priorities, simplify his life, and keep his life at a reasonable pace.

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak. Hans Hofmann

April 26, 2009
Watch over me and thee…
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Pray for the Lord to protect your wife while you are apart, and especially while she is “out in the world.” And let her KNOW that you pray for her safety on a regular basis


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Saturday, April 25, 2009

Love Dare Day 8

Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he recently enjoyed.


Jealousy is one of the strongest drives known to man.

Do you struggle with being jealous of others? Your friend is more popular so you feel hatred towards her, or your coworker gets a promotion so you can not sleep at night? They may have done nothing wrong, but you feel bitter because of their success.

Jealousy is a common struggle, sparked when someone else upstages you and gets something you want. If you are not careful jealousy slithers like a viper into your heart and strikes your motivations and relationships. If you do not diffuse your anger by learning to love others, you may eventually being plotting against them.

You do not usually get jealous of disconnected strangers. The ones you are usually tempted to be jealous of are primarily in the same arena with you. They work with you, play in your league, run in your circles......or live in your house.

When you were married you were given the role of becoming your spouse's biggest cheerleader and the captain of his fan club. Both of you became one and were to share in the enjoyment of the other.

Because love is not selfish and puts others first, it refuses to let jealousy in. It leads you to celebrate the successes of your spouse rather than resenting them. A loving wife does not compare her weaknesses to his strengths. She throws a celebration, not a pity party.

It is time to let love, humility, and gratefulness destroy any jealousy that springs up in your heart. It's time to let your mate's success draw you closer together and give you greater opportunities to show genuine love.

Love Dare Day 7~ The Truth

I wrote short lists. For some reason a whole lot didn't come to mind on either list I guess thats a good thing. His positives I find very endearing and his faults well I find are irritating honestly LOL some of them are just my pet peeves too. Nothing on the lists would make me say WHY Did I marry him? I love him and I don't regret marrying him for a second.

As for me trying to keep up with previous days... I was trying to continue to practice days 1-6 even on Day 7 and so on. But we had a long day out at the park he was preparing dinner and Skylar accidently spilled her spaghetti. I had a dirty towel within reach so I cleaned up the mess with a dirty towel and he snapped at me for using a dirty towel instead of a paper towel and I did snap back.

I will be blogging about our day out at the park on the main blog :) www.armyknightslady.blogspot.com

Friday, April 24, 2009

Love Dare Day 6 ~ The Truth

I wish I would have done this from the begining of the blog and seperated my Dares from their result or their Truth's...

Day Six nothing much to report. I had a GOOD day and it was pretty uneventful... Rick (I asked for his assistance with this one) couldn't make heads or tails of it. I guess it will come up maybe on a later date.