Dare Three

Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says "I was thinking of you today."

Feel free to post your thoughts/experiences on this dare



We live in a world enamored by "self." The culture around us teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and personal desires as the top priority. The goal it seems, is to chase the highest level of happiness possible. The danger from this kind of thinking becomes apparent once inside a relationship.

If there is a word that basically means the opposite of love, it is selfishness. Unfortunately it is something that is ingrained into every person from birth. You can often see it in the way adults mistreat one another. Almost every sinful act every committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. You cannot point out how many ways your spouse is selfish without admitting that you can be selfish too.

Loving couples are bent on taking care of the rother flawed human they get to share life with. One ironic aspect of selfishness is that even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive a reward. The bottom line is that you either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself. Choosing to love your mate will cause you to say "no" to what you want so you can say "yes" to what they need. That is putting the happiness of your partner above your own.

Nobody knows you as well as your mate. And that means that no one will be quicker to recognize a change when you deliberately start sacrificing your wants for his needs to make sure his needs are met.

You partner also has the challenge of loving a selfish person. Determine to be the first to demonstrate real love to them, and when it is all done you'll both be more fulfilled.

We started attending Willowbrook Baptist Church on Easter Sunday and yes its only two weeks ago but Pastor Mark has started a theme this month about Mustang Marriages. Yes he compares marriages to classic mustangs. How if you invest in your car, don't trade it in, do regular maintence, and do the things you need to do to take care of it then it can last you many many years... longer than the normal. This is sorta what this dare means. You get out of your marriage what you invest. Nothing should come before your spouse. Oh there was so much he talked about but I've slept since then LOL... I've also helped Rick drive to Fort Campbell Kentucky and back too... He had to have surgery up there and then we drove home... so its been a long day...

Here are notes from the Service

"Keeping your Marriage in Mint Condition"

The Song of Solomon 7:1-8; 8: 6-9

Cherish your spouse. A cherished Mustang/ Spouse is taken care of.

We cherish by our words. We cherish by our actions.

Don't trade in your spouse. Do minor mantience now or major repairs later. We don't meet needs to get credit; we meet needs because of love.

Mint Condition marriages grow in value.