Love Dare Day 15

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine. It may be holding the door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him. It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication. Show your mate that he is highly esteemed in your eyes.

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To honor someone means to give them respect and high esteem, to treat them as being special and of great worth. When you speak to them you keep your language clean and understandable. You are courteous and polite. When they speak to you you take them seriously, giving their words weight and significance. When they ask you to do something, you accommodate them, if at all possible, simply out of respect for who they are. The bible tells us to honor our father and mother, as well as those in authority. It is a call to acknowledge the position or values of someone else. Honor is a noble word.
This is especially true in marriage. Honoring your mate means giving him your full attention, not talking to them from behind a newspaper or with one eye on the television. When decisions are being made that affect both of you, or your whole family, you give your mate's voice and opinion equal influence in your mind. You honor what they have to say. They matter-and because of your treatment of them, they should know it.
Holy is another word that is not often equated with marriage, but is the basic for honor-it is the reason we give respect and high regard to our mates. The word is holy. To say your mate is holy to you does not mean that he or she is perfect. Holiness means they are set apart for a higher purpose-no longer common or everyday but special and unique. A person who is holy to you holds a place no one can rival in your heart. He or she is sacred to you, a person to be honored, praised and defended.
When 2 people marry each spouse becomes holy to each other by way of 'holy matrimony.' This means that no other person in the whole world is supposed to enjoy this level of commitment and endearment from you. Your relationship is like no other. You share physical intimacy with only them. You establish a home with this person. You bear your children with this person. Your heart, your possessions, your life itself is wrapped around the uncommon bond you share with this person.
Perhaps you wish some outsider could see the level of disrespect you get from your husband/wife-someone who would make your mate feel embaressed to be exposed for who they really are behind closed doors. But that is not the issue with true love. Love honors even when it is rejected. Love treats its beloved as special and sacred even when an ungrateful attitude is all you get in return.
When your attempts at honor are unreciprocated you are to give honor just the same. That's what love dares to do-to say "Of all the relationships I have, I will value ours the most. Of all the things I am willing to sacrifice, I will sacrifice the most for you." That is how you create an atmosphere for love to be rekindled. That is how you lead your heart to truly love your mate again. And that is the beauty of honor.