Love Dare Day Five Rick's Reply

I will share our emails from today

From: Hubby at Work
Date: 4/23/2009 4:19:56 PM
To: rmeknightslady
Subject: Re: Three Things

Cleaning!!!!!
loud voice at times
no third thing, cleaning counts as TWO!!!
so what are three things that get on your nerves about ME
not counting my OCD cleaniness
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From: rmeknightslady
Date: 4/23/2009 4:27:46 PM
To: Hubby at Work
Subject: Re: Three Things

That you mention my need to get out of the house at least once a day if not every other day. Its pretty damn often and it makes me feel bad or that my feelings suck. Okay
Second lack of listening once this improves your hearing problem will improve as well haha
And the third I bet you can figure it out.
Loves u

Aside from Dare's

Rick returned to work today so I emailed him the question of the three things that irritate him the most about me... No response yet...

I might have to text him every five minutes lol.

This morning Rick is really stressed out having to play part time house wife, student, and full time Soldier... I understand his stress and I am glad he respects my job. He knows that I can't do much right now until the pain eases. I am working in calling in the troops to help him out.

Oh so I was jamming to the music on my main blog... did you know? www.armyknightslady.blogspot.com

Doing what I could with the mess of laundry we have. The kids are on my mind. Particularly James. James seems to be insecure and nervous about our marriage (Rick and MINE) Especially when we have a confrontation. I have been trying to find ways of reassuring James I am not so easily scared away or do I ever back down. I SURELY won't ABANDON him.. He's had enough instability in his life. Yes he is nearly 22 but he's scared too. I think we formed a special bond once Rick got deployed and Alex went on his hardship. Skylar's six years old and she's gone through her own hells. I would never hurt my children in this manner and Marriage is forever... period... thats what a wedding ring and a vow means...
So listening to my music and just being goofy while putting away clothes and organizing the closet. Military Wife by Soldier Hard came on so I decided to write to it New Blog here also very important I don't think James knows how to treat a girl and its important to ME that I provide him with this and show him how a healthy marriage is supposed to be so one day when he (or Skylar) does get married I can show them and guide them. As long as I do a good job before hand I shouldn't have to hold their hand during. Yeah Rick and I have our share of bumps, bruises, and crap to get through but every marriage does. We are human. We don't abuse each other well we try not to in front of the kids <*wink*> Skylar runs around screaming SPOUSE abuse lol. Anyways thats on my mind and the train fell off the mental pregnancy track haha... Time is getting closer for Skylar to come home from her field trip today.

Love Dare Day 5

Ask you spouse to tell you three things that cause him to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is their perspective only.
Feel free to post your thoughts/experiences on this dare

Love is not rude. To be rude is to act unbecoming, embarrassing, or irritating. In marriage this could be a foul mouth, poor table manners, or a habit of making sarcastic quips. When a man is driven by love, he intentionally behaves in a way that is more pleasant to be around. If a woman desires to love him, she purposefully avoids things that frustrate him or cause him disrespect.
Good manners express to your significant other "I value you enough to exercise some self-control around you. I want to be a person who's a pleasure to be with." When love changes your behavior you restore an atmosphere of honor to your relationship.
If you don't let love motivate you to make needed changes in your behavior, the quality of your relationship will suffer. Love is not rude but lifts you to a higher standard. Do you wish your significant other would quit doing things that bother you? Then it is time to quit doing things that bother them.

For Day 4 I sent him a text message while he was at school telling him I love him and how I appreciate how much he has put up with me this week since I have been resting alot due to pain and lack of sleep. I am hoping to take it easy so I can at least get one day of good sleep then go on about normally if possible